Girls in CS.
On occasion I get to play counter strike, and I'd say I'm not too shabby in general. While I was pretty lousy when I first started a while back, I now in general get between 2 to 4 kills for every time I die, and this is considered a fairly good performance. Well, I was kind of in the analysis mode while playing this one night, and I noticed something about the whole community chat. People who did poorly often swore, whined about losing, called others cheaters, and in general didn't seem very happy about playing. In contrast, those with high scores usually were congratulating people for their performance (even those that had killed them personally), seemed more encouraging, and more positive about the game in general.
It so happens this was the same term I was taking both sociology and psychology in college. With that in mind, I was really interested with this whole concept of the social interactions within the "virtual" environment that some games can provide, so I decided to do a social experiment. Granted, I would never be able to use my findings in a study, as some things aren't quantifiable, but I hoped to at least have a new perspective as a result.
Like most social experiments, this was based a bit on deception. While I normally don't like being deceptive, I considered it very carefully. I decided the virtual environment is one where you are allowed to pretend you are anyone you want to be, and where you have to take what everyone says with a grain of salt, so to speak. With this in mind, I was soon to change a small factor about how people saw me.
Just a little more background before I go any further. I knew I wanted to look into the sociology within the gaming environment, but I hadn't decided particularly what I wanted to examine.
So there I was playing with a friend, after he had called me up wanting to play for a while, and then have me train him some. During the course of the afternoon, a girl came on the server we were playing on (from the clan
[*Girlz*]). After a few rounds she killed me, and I laughed to my friend, "I got killed by a girl!" But then it started going through my head... I wonder how other people react to a girl playing in a sport that's very much dominated by males?
I had previously had a conversation with one of my female friends about guys/girls, and one of the things she mentioned was her opinion of guys was that guys felt they had to be "the best" to be worth anything. I thought
about it, and came to the conclusion that it was kind of true. Not that we guys feel we have to be the very, very best at everything we do, but we want to believe that we're the best at a few things, and rather good at the rest.
Well, from that perspective, most guys are pretty sexist, I'll admit. Even I have the tendency to think I can beat a girl at most things, regardless of whether it involves physical strength or not (though those are definitely included). It's a matter of ego, translating physical prowess to mean superior at everything, and yeah, that's probably a wrong perspective, but it's true that inside my head I often think like that, without even meaning to.
Back to the story though. I had seen how there was a lot of friendship and -mostly- healthy competition when I was playing under my usual name of Nighthawk, so I decided to change something. I went on the same server, with mostly the same people, just a little bit later... as Julie.
Now, instead of having a name that implies the silent watchful hunter, now I've got a name that just yells out "hey, I'm a girl, and probably can't play worth crap!" :) The reactions the various times I did this certainly were nothing at all like I could have expected.
The first time, entering into the middle of the game and rising, my teammates laughed at the other team constantly and made comments such as "hahaha, the GIRL on our team killed you all!" That was by far the most
positive thing ever said. Pretty soon, as I was making my way to the top ranks, two of them started hitting on me. Let me just say now, sick. It's not something comfortable to endure as a guy to have other guys be hitting on you, believe me, but in retrospect, thinking about it, the real girls out there probably don't like it a whole ton better. Still... it was nasty.
So here I am, trying to concentrate on the game, while guys started saying things like "so, Julie... you play in here often? *wink* *wink* ". Oh how I longed to mention I was a guy just then, but I didn't, and played my part.
Ugh. It was funny, though, when another guy on my team just responded "that's got to be the worst attempt at a pickup line I've ever heard!" and a bunch of them laughed, as did I. Anyway, I ended that game with the top
score, and it was fairly friendly the whole time. The major exception being the occasional sexual references and such they were making about me and what they'd like to do and such... At this point my level of respect for guys
was starting to go fairly low, but that was not the end, oh no, not at all.
The next time, I took them all to school from the beginning, on an all-dust server running at 1 hour rotations. The whole time, people were making rude comments like "you just won because all us terrorists got stuck behind
Julie's fat ass" and such. Pretty soon I had guys directly challenging me, saying "I'm going to kill you next round bitch, you're mine!" and such. (Humorously enough, I killed that guy within 20 seconds of him saying that,
but that's beside the point).
Unfortunately, even the compliments I got were really rude, like "you're pretty good for a bitch" and such. But mostly people were saying, as one young man so eloquently put it, "you fat bitch I bet you do nothing but play this game all day long" along with all manner of insults. I, the "girl" in this case, wasted a bunch of boys (and yes, I wasted them pretty badly, with a very large gap between my score and the rest). It seems the bulk majority of them simply couldn't take it, their egos were too fragile.
I didn't really say much, except laughing a few times, for the bulk majority of this time, occasionally chuckling when I killed the guys who insulted me the most, but in general just telling my team good job, whoever shot me
"nice shot", and the likes. Well, to his credit (and a small bit of redemption for our gender), one guy defended me a bit, while most just called me rude names. He kind of apologized for their actions, and said he thought I was really good, so I said "hey, thanks, don't worry about it, most boys can't handle being beaten by a girl. I'm used to it." He laughed, and the rest of them cussed at me some more and made a lot of sexual comments I really don't need to elaborate on. I was amazed, during the entire game, the sole focus was on what sexual things they did with "Julie" the previous night, and with "Julie"s family members. Pretty negative overall.
Coming to the conclusion that most American guys were a rather lewd and immature group, I decided to play with some Europeans. Screw the grades, I stayed up until 4am and then started a European CS fest. The difference
could almost be tasted. Granted, I don't know what the Germans were saying (probably "geben sie mein hosen" and such), but the English speakers were -much- more polite than anything I had previously experienced. I had very, very few sexual comments made, and in general they just regarded me as a
talented player. Basically, it was back to on par with how the Americans treated me while playing as Nighthawk -- the generic, assumed-to-be-male name. With a quick hurah for Europeans, odd as they may seem at times, it's
off to bash some Americans, and see what we can learn from it in the process.
I personally learned a lot from doing this experiment. For one, I'd be willing to bet being a woman in the military is not entirely dissimilar from this. In some situations, it probably sucks to be a girl sometimes... I guess I didn't realize what outright jerks guys were willing to be, really. I'd expect that they might be a bit pissed in private, but the expressions of negative attitudes I got... it was a lot more intense than I ever expected.
I understand why the worst rude guy of them all was a bit frustrated, I ended up being 72-28, while he was 21-44, but that's no excuse for that kind of treatment and making a game personal. Not my best performance by any means (like when I was getting those 4:1 ratios I
mentioned earlier), though for reference the next guy below me had 20 less kills and 15 more deaths, but you get the idea.
As far as discrimination, I think what I experienced is more extreme than usual, simply because of the anonymity of the environment. With no real consequences existing for being socially unacceptable, a more blatant
expression of dormant feelings was more likely. This was the first time I'd really experienced just a small piece of what being a girl can be like, firsthand. Part of me wanted to tell them who I really was, thinking I would have really got some humorous reactions from them. But in reality, chances are they'd just say they were just joking around, or something like that, because as we all know, the classic response is trying to deny your actions when you're caught.
Playing CS while pretending to be a girl gave me a lot to think about. While the reactions to my presence I got were mostly negative, I still enjoyed the experiment. While I was playing, I could see myself totally taking on the identity of a girl, and having that feeling "oh yeah? I'll show them!" I suppose I "showed them" alright, but it wasn't really true. I'm not a girl. So whether or not I'd like to make those jerks get a little humility, I can't really myself prove that girls can be just as good if not better.
Much as all of us take on the role of the CT or the Terrorist as we play, so it is amazingly easy to take on the role of the other gender and act it out for a time. It is kind of weird how we can get caught up in our own mental
creations at times. Overall, though, I'm glad I did the experiment, informal as it was, just so I got a better perspective into a different world.